2015 has so far been the year of everyone getting engaged, in a relationship or in the slow process of getting into a relationship. Congrats to all of you and you go girls!
However for me and the rest of the recent graduates, who have just entered the real world , starting our first career, moving away from home, if that’s were our job took us. There is nothing wrong with you. Trust me. I’m 23 years old, living in the central valley of California ( hey pacific northwest mind sending us from rain? Thanks!) with not so much desire of being in a relationship. Would i like to be in a relationship, yes ,who doesn’t but i want it to be for the right reasons, not just a status.
Recently , i was at a friends house and the comment was made that a 29 year old female was scared of a relationship, because she had never been in one. I looked at my friend weirdly because she thought that was crazy. I made the comment ” I’m 23 and have never been in a real relationship, give her a break.”
Everyone is different, some girls need a guy in there life, some don’t and some just need good guy friends. There is nothing wrong with that.
Personally, i have never had an “official ” boyfriend, does that bug me no. Have i been in somewhat of a relationship , yes, twice. The first one i broke my own heart because he would never give me the time of day and the second one i knew it wasn’t going anywhere so why stay/ see someone if you know its not going to go anywhere. Do i find myself thinking about these guys from time to time, yes. but i’m thinking of the memories I shared with them. Does it bug me when I see there name on a wall in the most random town in a state that is thousands of miles from where they live, with a guy friend, yes. Especially when they look at you confused because they think you are talking about that person when really you are talking about someone who lives in a completely different state and is more than likely younger than that person.
Now not having a boyfriend or guy in my life isn’t the end of the world. Sometimes I feel like it potentially is or that something is wrong with me because I’m not in a relationship. You know what there is nothing wrong with it, it just means that I haven’t either met the right guy, or I’m not at a place in my life to be in a relationship.
However, how do you explain that to all of the family and friends who not only ask you but your parents? Now we all know mom’s are the worst when it comes to asking questions. They want to know everything, and if you even bring up a guys name who is just a friend , she will think something more is going on and get really happy. Sorry Mom , no relationship status changes or wedding bells from this kid yet…
There’s unfortunately nothing you can do but smile , hold your head up high and say “Not at this time, but I’m taking applications.” and walk away.
Just remember, it’s not the end of the world to have your relationship status as single. The right guy will find you when you least expect it. You are in your twenty’s, go travel and see the world, move to a state or city you have never been, explore and discover who you are before you bring someone into your life.
Timing is everything. Live in the moment and let love find you. Don’t let the people who think a relationship is important keep you down, just smile and walk away. Remember, there is nothing wrong with you.